AITA for not forgiving my husband Throwaway account. For more information, please see our Weeks went by and Jim refused to speak to me directly and has never once asked about our child. It doesnt help that he doesnt seem to feel bad about it (he usually does at least seem to feel bad), and his apologies come with some defensiveness and excuses. Not just to me but to my child as well. Leaving him or just walking away will not help him. And for some of youtouch grass. He asked what I studied and I told several things but I focussed mainly on social history, and gave him the example that my senior thesis was on the relations between the BDSM community and law enforcement in southern California during the 70s ( a very niche topic I know). AITA For Not Forgiving My Husband (26m) For A Mistake And Not Trusting Him With Our Child. But honestly I dont know what Im looking for, here. Your family is way out of line here.". ** When my daughter was born her skin was very dark and looked like she could have two biological parents who were of African descendent. I feel invalidated and like he doesnt listen when it comes to stuff like this, so I continue the conversation. Am I in the wrong, given the circumstances? Hes really insecure about his forgetfulness. First posted to BORU by u/Jay_Edgar in 2021. husband | 15K views, 131 likes, 1 loves, 103 comments, 2 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Hidden Tale: AITA For Not F'org'iving My Husband For A. Eventually he agreed to do a paternity and he was 100% the father. He said okay. When my daughter was born her skin was very dark and looked like she could have two biological parents who were of African descendent. He cut it off when I found out, we went to couples counseling, etc. Dr. Dre Says Older Artists Hating on Current State of Rap Sound Like 'Somebody's Grandfather', Tom Cruise Lobbied Studios on SAG-AFTRA Stunt and AI Positions (Exclusive), Peacock to Hike Prices for First Time Since Streamers Launch, Amazon allegedly paid Dwayne Johnson $50 million for a Christmas Movie, Under His Influence - Trailer | BET+ Original Movie [Sydney Mitchell, Iman Shumpert, Cynthia Bailey], Kroy Gives Insight On What Its Like Dealing With Kim. idk I came out looking Black whereas my sisters came out white looking. My husband dotes on her constantly which is wonderful, however, the rest of us (his dogs, my children, and me) are not even a close second. Scan this QR code to download the app now. I'd even go as far as to try and get a restraining order along with the divorce. Your husband agreed. He's repairing the the nursery and keeps asking me what I would like and I cry every time saying we already had what I liked and some of the items that we had can't be replaced. Scan this QR code to download the app now. Cookie Notice I passed out at work. Enjoying new job but my manager makes want to quit - how to address during 1:1? He yelled at me and told me painting the garage floor was my present because we needed it done to pass inspection on the house we were buying. All rights reserved. A woman was backed for telling her dad and siblings that they aren't in their grandparent's trust. What a fck!ng disaster. My husband Jim (26m), fake name, was furious and accused me of cheating and left right then and there. His family started with the racial comments and eventually he started doing it too but only through my family, he refused to speak to me directly. (Reddit Cheating)Hi, Redditors thanks for stopping by my YouTube channel.. I told him I was done because I worked myself to near death for him, he needed to get his shit together and help around the house again, not the other way around. Things that I thought he'd never say and he did it so easily. I am truly amazed by all the wonderful comments of support as well as the private messages. This is extremely dangerous; your husband is at risk to himself. Other Redditors put in their own two cents in the comments, and many people supported the woman in the situation. What else will Jim and his family say or do the next time they get mad? Not just to me but to my child as well. And Id divorce his racist ass with a quickness. While he didn't say any of the racist words he did make comments about our daughter being a "Welfare Princess," and how I was going to be just another "baby mama.". See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! Im upset. "They treated me terribly and sided with my husband completely," the OP revealed. A lot of things have happened since my initial post and I just needed time to process it and be in a place where I can write about on social media. Online he announced that I "pushed out a dark skinned baby" and was going to he was divorce me. I am currently NC with my parents. This made my husband very upset. He still keeps apologizing and wants me to come back to the house, he even offered to leave so I could stay with our daughter but I don't want to and really like having the support of my parents. I didn't mean to be hurtful but it's how I feel. JavaScript is disabled. ", "I'm still upset, and I was feeling petty, so I told them they should try begging him for forgiveness," the woman revealed. So you can imagine my surprise when I open our fridge and see leftover spaghetti in an Oxo container. #storytime #RealLifeStories #reddit #storyteller #relationshipadvice #reallifestory #redditposts #husband #relationships #redditstories #stories #storytelling #relationship #storyofmylife Jim also admitted that he was scared when I got pregnant (our baby wasn't planned), was very anxious about being a father, but just pretended to be excited because he didn't want to look like an A. Pharm Techs GET IN HERE NOW!!!!! My mother was by my side the entire time and I kept professing my innocence. Thank you so for all your words of encouragement a couple months back, both in posts and the DMs. I agree, but my point is that newborns aren't usually born with dark skin. He just took stuff down to either return it for the money or gave it away. My husband has never taken a stand supporting me till now and always sides with his parents and sister. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! Things that I thought he'd never say and he did it so easily. Reddit, Inc. 2023. Update 1: I stepped away for a few hours and couldn't believe what I came back to. Fast forward to today, it is DD 1st birthday. All rights reserved. My parent had at least 45%, which means I have at least 20%. We made two versions of our budget. And this story isn't unbelievable tbh unfortunately many ppl get upset at their children's skin tones. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. There's a lot to unpack here, but good on you for being petty. My husband thinks it's petty and somewhat ableist I still haven't forgiven Jim. He was mad I wouldnt accept his apology and move on. Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/itg9l6/aita_for_not_forgiving_my_husband_26m_for_a/, Mood: Exhausting and horrifying, but ultimately vindicating and relieving, Trigger warnings: racism, threats of domestic violence, accusations of infidelity and actual infidelity. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. I'm so ashamed of ever loving and marrying into this family and wonder why I didn't see this before. Women who use men, what do you use them for? He asked me if I still loved him and I admitted that he showed me his worst self and I don't know if I could live with that image. Whats it like being a counselor or therapist? I am truly amazed by all the wonderful comments of support as well as the private messages. Online he announced that I "pushed out a dark skinned baby" and was going to he was divorce me. We also post the following types of Reddit r/ videos: Reddit cheating stories, surviving infidelity, Reddit relationship advice, Reddit update, r/aita, r/entitledparents, r/relationships, Reddit relationship advice update, r/askreddit, reddit story, storytime with reddit, funny reddit stories, reddit cheating, reddit cheating stories, justnomil reddit, r/aita update, justnoso reddit, aita, reddit husband, justnoso reddit, r/ Relationship_Advice, r/justnomil, rslash For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding. 6-year-old Onyx was shot during a road rage incident two days after celebrating her Birthday. I NEED your help please. He told everyone on both sides of the family what . Carol came and saw me every day, but DH didn't visit once and was tired when I called. Jim made some very racist remarks. "Hi I'm 23f and two years ago I was engaged. NTA [not the a**hole]. I texted my husband and our families videos of her out. Once the truth came out everything he and his family posts were all taken down but I, and a few friends, still have the screenshots. One of our wedding gifts was those clear Oxo Pop storage containers. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and I had our daughter last year. Previous Previous post: AITA For Making My Step Son Give His Old Things He Doen't Use To My Daughter. I was unaware Asperger's was an offensive terms as it was the term my husband and his friends always used. The fact that she's even asking and doubting herself tells me she's going to take him back. But as of now, I dont feel comfortable with him going. His family started with the racial comments and eventually he started doing it too but only through my family, he refused to speak to me directly. Next up was figuring out how our student loans played into the equation. Jim also admitted that he was scared when I got pregnant (our baby wasn't planned), was very anxious about being a father, but just pretended to be excited because he didn't want to look like an A. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Comments are pointing out that the wife may be Black or mixed bc of this sentence, "like she could have two biological parents who were of African descendent.". They said that they've already apologized and tried to minimize the situation. He started to feel guilty but was too scared that I would walk away to ever confess. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/itg9l6/aita_for_not_forgiving_my_husband_26m_for_a/. But this time was different. Now her husband is upset with them both and has "cut ties both professionally and socially. Just to clarify. A Home Bakery based in Raleigh. AITA for not letting my husband go to the funeral of the baby he conceived with his Mistress. August 1, 2021 / Advice / By Mamas Uncut One user is asking Reddit if they are the a****** for refusing to forgive their cousin after she slept with their fianc. Archived post. She needs to leave him alone. Why did you do that? pause Him: ohsorry. He told everyone on both sides of the family what happened, made posts on social media and wanted a divorce. Ever since I had no contact with them," the OP begins. No wet food, do not refrigerate / freeze. My husband told me Jim has Asperger's and probably didn't mean anything by it. Ie. I can get being mad at your wife for thinking she cheated and had another child. They said that they've already apologized and tried to minimize the situation. Ive wanted those since I got my first apartment. I thanked him and asked him why he replied to them. backed for telling her dad and siblings that they aren't in their grandparent's trust, supported for revealing to his family that his "sister" is actually his mother, future mother-in-law was slammed for saying a family trip was "adults only" when that wasn't the case, If Your Packages Get Delayed, Don't Blame Exploited Workers, Biden Must Stand Up to the Teamsters, Prevent a Strikeand Save His Economy, Crimea Bridge Explosion Photos and Videos Reveal Devastating Impact, Trump Wanted Cows to Climb Ladders Over Border Wall, Ex-Staffer Says, Carlee Russell's Story Turns People Against True Crime Fans, Ron DeSantis Floats Changes to Social Security for Younger Generations. I've decided to contact a lawyer and will be filing for divorce after my daughter's first Birthday. DH has PTO, so I'm not worried about him losing his job, but I have tried to encourage him to get out of bed and come sit with me and do things. I can't un-hear or unsee all the horrible things that was said and done. I (56F) am married to DH (59M). We decided to reconcile because he was willing to work on fixing things and admit he was wrong. Reddit, Inc. 2023. He still keeps apologizing and wants me to come back to the house, he even offered to leave so I could stay with our daughter but I don't want to and really like having the support of my parents. Authorities said two people were killed in an "emergency" on the strategically vital Kerch Strait Bridge, which connects Russia with Crimea. Why do black women on Tiktok compare themselves to white women? He asked me if I still loved him and I admitted that he showed me his worst self and I don't know if I could live with that image. and our It also sounds like you have some internal issues to resolve regarding the situation with your parents. While deeply hurtful I wouldn't call it violent, but maybe it is. Page 1 of 2 1 2 Next > . The OP revealed her partner is "trying and has been pretty good so far.". We got married in November. I do go to the house every so often so Jim can see his daughter and for Couple's Counseling via telecom. He made racist remarks? Trust is the hallmark of our marriage. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. Did You Know That Your Social Security Is Going to Ukraine? I planned the funeral, stored things, and sold the house so DH didn't have to. I'm currently at Carol's house and will be hiring a home care nurse for the next week so Carol doesn't have to look after me, but I just feel like an awful human being for screaming and devaluing the loss of his mom, but I also feel so heartbroken for the way I was treated. They said that I can't be angry forever and that I need to learn to forgive them. I let out an audible sigh and say (albeit loudly because my husband was in his office and I was in the kitchen) Me: [Husband], the Oxo containers arent supposed to have wet food in them or go in the fridge. Reddit, Inc. 2023. My husband is a very forgetful person. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. I was in for several days for fluids, medication, and observation. Cookie Notice My husband Jim (26m), fake name, was furious and accused me of cheating and left right then and there. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! Join our discord server: https://discord.gg/Hx2hym2juy. ", A Redditor asked if the OP's husband has "straightened up" or if he is "still being a tool." No one could believe the results and it was done again, Jim's the dad. My mother was by my side the entire time and I kept professing my innocence. Eventually he agreed to do a paternity and he was 100% the father. For more information, please see our That man is racist and will try to cut down on the child's self esteem and will try to bleach the child. Discussion in 'Romance Alley' started by Jay Johnson, Sep 15, 2020. Regardless of what our daughter looks like I don't want her to be around that. Very very sticky situation. I took over everything, and was packing up MIL's house while working. I'm still not Jim's biggest fan but I'm going to try to learn how best to approach him directly about anything in the future (not bring up old stuff). According to Statista, in a survey asking which family member respondents would want to improve their relationship with, 30 percent chose their child or children. New ways of making babies are on the horizon. This is the kind of husband who will stab his wife in her sleep. Archived post. and our Posting on an alt in the hope that people here can give me an honest answer. "See it as a learning experience for them," they added. I told my husband about it cause honestly it seemed like Jim was possibly hitting on me. Maybe I was overly emotional about it, I dont know. My MIL is wonderful, and DH was always good me, so I never complained during this hard time. Dam family secrets coming out and thats exactly what he and his family deserve. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. No one could believe the results and it was done again, Jim's the dad. Now that he knows that our child is his and has spent time with her Jim regrets everything and just wants his family back and is willing to spend the rest of his life making it up to us. Trump suggests the lack of Biden hats means he actually won the 2020 election. On top of that, in some messed up way, I miss my parents. Will This Man Find His Dream Girl Part 41? Jim refused to pick me up from the hospital, threw my stuff out on the lawn and changed the locks, so I had to stay with my parents. I understood that if she gave birth, my husband would have to do his part in supporting that child (at the very least, financially). Don't forget how they treated you and don't feel bad for anything.". I obviously am not going to attend this funeral and make the woman and her whole family uncomfortable. My doctor gave me meds and told me to rest, but I was still vomiting and had so much to do. I also understand why some people may think this is fake and all I can say is that you are free to believe what you want in this.